Samantha Heuwagen and I have launched a new YouTube channel solely dedicated to Spilling Tea w/ Samantha & Dr. B! Click here to visit - and subscribe!!!
.. and to make things even MORE crazy - we also uploaded a new video! Episode 4: Sexism (again) and Another Q&A is now available! The good news just never ends today! :) Watch our new episode below, like and subscribe!!
I hope you enjoyed it! If you have any burning sex questions you'd like to get checked out, send them our way - we also have an email address, firstname.lastname@example.org - feel free to send the our way!
For those looking for something simple to do that you can input immediately, here is a small suggestion for a fun new thing to do with your partner, it will increase their and your desire... sometimes driving you both through the roof!
Anticipation... the Uncredited Aphrodisiac
Think about the last time you knew you were having sex. Your partner kept dropping you hints, maybe some fun text messages during the day... Maybe even a hot nude to get you revved up. There were plans. You wanted it, they wanted it, consent was exchanged and you were looking forward to being with your partner. This fun dance of anticipation led to an increase in your own desire for your partner, and an increase in your own self-confidence (your partner wanted you). I would wager - as long as you didn't take sex TOO seriously - you had some amazing sex that night. This ever happened to you?
Give it a shot tonight - talk to your partner in the morning, or even the day before. Ask and plan out a sexy fun time - but for the evening, or the next day, or an agreed upon later date. Have buildup. Get creative and sexy - let your partner know that you are looking forward to spending time with them! It's going to drive you - and them - wild. Just, don't overthink it. Do it.
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