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(In case you couldn’t tell from the lack of posts recently…) I’m taking a brief break for the holiday season; to return in January! Maybe sooner, if I find interesting things to post.
Just wanted to thank you all for following, liking, re-posting, and showing me some love!
I sincerely hope you all have awesome, wonderful consensual sex this holiday season, amidst all the celebration!
“What is the best way to have an orgasm during sex?” I get this question frequently… during parties, social events… at conferences… Thanksgiving dinner… *sigh*. You would think that most people don’t actually pay attention to themselves during their sex - never bothering to remember what feels the best! Oh wait - that’s true! What was I thinking?
You may be surprised to learn.. missionary position can be one of the best position types for clitoral stimulation while being penetrated by a partner. A close second (and sometimes first) would be female-superior position of cowgirl - both typical and reverse. The main reason these three positions work the best is because of the access to the clitoris, and the internal structures of the clitoris. (*you know there is a lot more to the clitoris than just the bitty nubbin’s at the top of the vulva, right? right? Well if not, look out for a multi-part educational series on sexual anatomy.. coming soon ;-)*) … however each woman and person is very different.
However, you should know that no position is a substitute for knowing and asking for what you want from your partner. Also, the penis is not the ONLY part of your body (for dudes) that should be working toward stimulating your female partner… You have hands, use them! Usually a combination of manual stimulation (of clitoris, nipples, rib cages, erogenous zones…) and the thrusting and sexual friction of activity can build to an orgasm.
However, just as I posted about before - the orgasm shouldn’t be the only goal of sexual activity… the intimacy should. So before you focus too much on achieving an orgasm, think first about the connection you want to share with your partner.
What do you think? What works best for you, to get you off?
This page is a blog and repository of Dr. B - a sex therapist, educator, researcher, activist and speaker. Interested in all things sexual, social justice, LGBTQQIA+, and mental health.