We all get busy. (*Bah-dum-tiss!* Talk about a double entendre! Oh, I crack myself up sometimes...) And often, it leads to a sacrifice of one of our best stress-relievers; SEX! Many couples and individuals say, "I just can't find the time... When am I supposed to have sex with my [partner(s)]?" - My answer: Um, duh, whenever you can.
The connection between partners through having sex is so very important. It should never be neglected. Research shows that partners who have sex more frequently are happier and lead less stress-filled lives. They are able to cope with new difficulties with ease, and generally have higher overall levels of life satisfaction.
I know some of you are thinking, but, really - I don't have time. We have different schedules... we barely see each other as it is! This means it's time to make some hard or difficult decisions. This is more than about sex - this is about your life and your relationship. You have to make your relationship your top-most priority. The happiest, most successful people put their relationships first. Your career, (other)family, friends, they all come after your partnership. Here are some ideas to re-connect and re-prioritize your relationship:
Once your partnership is reprioritized, sex, attraction, and desire should readily follow. If you try some of these options, or something that should be bringing you closer, and it's not working or there are continued problems - consider seeking out a couple therapist.
What other things do you and your partner do to re-connect (emotionally, or sexually)? Let me know in the comments!
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