Hey Everyone! I hope you are having an amazing start to your new year! Have you tried anything new in your sex lately? Wanna make it super awkward (at first)? Hey Everyone! I hope you are having an amazing start to your new year! Have you tried anything new in your sex lately? Wanna make it super awkward (at first)?
A well known method of sex therapy, The Sexual Crucible Approach, initially developed by Dr. David Schnarch, advocates for an increased level of comfort in who you are - making you a better lover when you care less about judgments from others, and rely more on the experience of sex itself. One method by which they advocate for better sex is - “Eyes Open Sex.”
Most of the time while most of us are having sex, we keep our eyes closed - we’ve been trained to do this by society and our culture. However, think about some of the most intense scenes you’ve ever seen in recorded sexual acts - or in your personal life. The include deep eye gazing, and a strong connection between the partners, right? But have you ever thought to try this during your own sexual acts? Maybe tonight is the night. Sex is not a solo act - stop acting like it!
While engaging in sex, try keeping your eyes open during the whole experience - or as much as you can. While you are doing this, don’t just look at your partner, really gaze at them. Look at their beautiful body - look at their reactions to the things you are doing together. Try and make eye contact, look deep.
This will be a challenge for many people - most people try and it doesn’t work well. However, it can be an exceptionally moving experience that can draw you and your partner even closer together. Let me know what you think!
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