First of all - congratulations on knowing who you are! I have no idea where you are in your life, but at least knowing to yourself what your sexual identity is (as of right now) is a HUGE step, and a major accomplishment. That should be the first thing you are proud of! So many people go through life so confused and re/oppressed about who they are that they never fully realize what and who they can be.
As for telling your parents and friends… that’s always a doozy. Some people lose friends by coming out, and sometimes people have very bad experiences when telling their parents; I hope this doesn’t happen to you. We’ve all heard the video/audio from the man in Kennesaw, GA when his family tried to have a “pray the gay away” intervention with him - which ended terribly. However, there are also all the wonderful stories of immediate acceptance and true support that are plentiful with simple searches online…. But for you - I think the first thing you should do is “arm” yourself by considering the people you want to tell - what do you think their reaction will be, honestly and objectively? Will they want to learn more? Will they have a ton of questions for you? Will they want to research on their own? What should you have ready for them? Consider having books and resources at the ready. A great option for parents to read would be “Always my Child” by Kevin Jennings; this book doesn’t really cover pansexuality - but it’s a start!
Rather shockingly, there is no (that I could find) national pansexual-specific awareness/education/advocacy group. However, you could get some information from many of the bisexual advocacy groups who have become rather pan-friendly in recent years.
The main advice I have to give is this - be yourself, and be ready to answer a bunch of questions. Don’t hold back, but don’t negate or denigrate yourself for others. It is hopeful that your family will accept you, and that your true friends will remain. If they don’t - maybe they weren’t meant to be in your life right now.
As for gathering the courage to come out… maybe try some of these things:
This is all just one step in the giant labyrinth of coming out - a process that lasts your whole life. However, the first time is a big deal, and one that you never have to (get to) do again, so at there’s that.
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