Definitely might be overthinking this one...
Spoiler alert: We all masturbate! Even if we do it in the presence of a loving partner, if you are a person who engages in sexual activity, we have all masturbated at some point, in some way. Masturbation is the process of self-pleasuring in a sexual manner to elicit an arousing and satisfying response.
I was thinking about how a common theme of our society is that boys are "crude" and "vulgar" and mimic masturbation signals when 'cat-calling' women or when joking around with each other. They frequently talk about masturbation with each other - and between partners. However, for women, this is often not true - masturbation is hardly ever brought up - and if it is, it is definitely not boisterously or - heaven forbid - openly discussed in public. So, that got me thinking - is female masturbation oppressed by our heteropatriarchal society?
... and then after I thought that I immediately said, "of course it is." - So you can stop with your sass! Of course, our society has historically (and consistently) been obsessed with making sure that women's sexuality is repressed. Even when the vibrator was initially invented it was never seen as a sexual tool or toy; instead it was a medical instrument to cure a disease! (To 'cure' hysteria - and used by medical doctors on women to bring them to 'paroxysm' [orgasm] which would alleviate symptoms.) It simply wasn't truly believed that women even had orgasms for the longest time. Even now, we are only -literally- just beginning to fully understand the female genital anatomy! Only within the previous 20-30 years have we uncovered the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the true shape and scope of the clitoris.
So... why have we consistently, and constantly repressed female sexuality? And to this day - we continue to repress this sexuality through the ongoing message that masturbation is somehow wrong or inappropriate for women. WHY!? Why on Earth is this still a thing!? Why is it 'OK' or 'acceptable' albeit with a tinge of gross-out for boys and men to joke around about masturbation or sex, but when a woman does it - it's not the same? Why is she "nasty" and he is "funny?"
Sexual double standards...
Ingrained beliefs rooted in oppression...
Beliefs of propriety...
I don't think this is a question that will be answered through overthinking it. I also know this question has been posed by many more thoughtful and articulate people before me - and I love their work. As for me, I believe it is due to power and control - and the subjugation of women in our society, culture, and history. This is one more thing men have robbed women of; for shame.
What are your thoughts?
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