When was the last time you asked your partner all the sex questions?
Some of you may be thinking - why do I want to know all the answers? Because it's important, that's why! I see clients and students who are consistently hesitant to talk about sex even with those who they are having the sex with!
Here are some BASIC sex questions you may want to consider asking someone whom you are having sex with regularly:
These questions get at some main concerns, quickly - 1) safety, 2) pleasure, 3) affect/connection. These are some of the most important components of expressing sexuality that leads to better sex. Everyone should attempt to be safe, have a pleasurable time, with someone that they connect (even if briefly) to. Sex is better this way!
Notice - I didn't ask about how many partners a person has had. I also didn't ask about how they identify in terms of their sexual orientation, etc. I didn't propose these questions on purpose - what do they have to do with your attraction to that person, or your decision as to whether you could have sex with them? If you answered that question with a, 'because, I don't know if I could have sex with someone who has...' then you may want to take a look in the mirror and check that bias.
Have any of you asked these questions, know the answers? I'd be curious to see how it turned out for you! #AskThemTonight!
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